More Headlines

Helping Evelyn Mount

Posted: 11/14/2014 - Donate to Evelyn Mount's food pantry. 2530 Cannan, Reno. 440 8716

The Generator

Posted: 11/12/2014 -

How to Talk to Children About Death

Updated: 11/11/2014 - 1. Be aware of your own feelings. 2. Be Honest – Be present! 3. Listen! Listen! Listen! 4. Provide time and space to hear their words. 5. Respect the child’s ways of expressing their feelings. 6. Children will re-grieve, so let them regress and be depressed. 7. Let them see your grief. 8. Answer only the questions they ask. If you don’t know – tell them you don’t know. 9. Observe behaviors at home, in the car, and ask how they are doing in school. 10. Explain your funeral plans, rituals, or traditions to children. 11. Avoid half-truths. 12. Talk about the person who died. Grief Activities to Facilitate the Process, not Take Away the Pain Plant a memory garden Create memory books - boxes Write a letter, poetry, or a book together or alone Light candles Create a collage Share music – dance and sing Draw pictures – color and paint Create a room – a safe place to hit things or throw something that won’t break Talk about how you feel today Send up balloons Plant a tree Talking to Children about Suicide Talking to a child about suicide may be one of the most difficult tasks you will face. You can’t ignore their needs, especially if you are the primary adult in their lives. Children already know something has changed just in your demeanor, expression, and observation of the household. If you’re reluctant to talk about the suicide, remember they may hear it from someone else and then the confusion may be intensified. Holly, a twelve-year-old Solace Tree participant wishes she could have done more when finding about her fathers suicide, but realizes he was going to do it anyway. When meeting at The Solace Tree, she says, “A lot of children wish they could have done something different but now realizing, two years later – he made a choice” (not to be with her and her and mom)! Lessons Learned from Grievers of Suicide Be honest. Tell the truth. Create a safe environment. Let children regress and be depressed. Pay attention to their feelings. Answer only the questions (try your best) they ask. Children will re-grieve throughout the days and months ahead. Let children see you grieve. You are all grieving differently. Explain other alternatives other than suicide. Talk about other ways to help someone who has completed suicide or is thinking about suicide. Provide security, love and support. No one can be prepared for a suicide. When a family member has died because of a suicide, it can be difficult for the adults to be sensitive to children’s needs. The parent’s immersion in their own grief can cause a child to feel abandoned at a time when their need for a stable parental figure is the greatest. Whether your child is in pre-school or a teen, be honest and listen to what they have to say. Accept their feelings and share your own. Just as you need emotional non-judgmental support from someone close to you, your children need your support or someone close to them at this time, as well. Emilio Parga is the Founder and Executive Director of The Solace Tree – for grieving children, teens, and families. The organization meets every other week throughout the year. They provide peer support groups for grieving children and teen’s ages 3 - 18, grief camp, and a lending library for those who want more information about the grieving child, teen, and adult. Do Talk with Children about Death What does the child want to know What does the child need to know What can the child understand Realize that grief is an on-going process with no easy answers We must allow new loss (death) to be first feelings and a priority for students Encourage children to attend the funeral or service Realize that not talking about the loss doesn’t go away REMEMBER, what we resist, PERSISTS! Know that children will be confused and angry and that is okay – provide outlets Let children talk about their experience Children want the truth Listen and listen some more to children and teens


Updated: 11/10/2014 - Websites set up to raise money for Ashley Deane and to keep updated on a vigil this Sunday for her sons.

KOLO-TV 4850 Ampere Drive Reno, NV 89502
Copyright © 2002-2015 - Designed by Gray Digital Media - Powered by Clickability
Gray Television, Inc.