Separation Anxiety

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Barbara Riley's 18-year old daughter, Tracey, is a freshman at Nevada. She's the first in the family to move away, and while Tracey is excited. Her mother is reacting like most parents finally watching their child leave the nest.
One administrator at the school says it's hard because for 12 years, these parents are expected to get as involved as possible in their child's education.... Then suddenly, it's the student's responsibility.
But it doesn't mean you should disconnect yourself from your child completely. Angie Taylor, University of Nevada, Vice-President says "stay involved with your student without sort of crossing that line. Letting you student become independent, helping them learn to navigate the system themselves, advocate for themselves, if you will. Support them, but not doing it for them... and that's the line that we try to help parents with."
Taylor says there are services available on-line to help the parent stay connected with the school, without interfering too much in a student's personal life.
Riley says she trusts her daughter will respect her newfound freedoms, and both women understand college is about more than just an education. Tracey Riley, UNR Freshman, "I'm so excited because it's a whole new scene. There's so many more people and so many more things you can learn. It's a whole new experience. It's so much different than your high school years."
The University says the interest and involvement of parents has only grown this year with their attentiveness towards their child's education.
She says one former students gave parents some good advice telling them not to continually ask their child if they are homesick. She says it's good to talk about home, but realize they too can be feeling some anxiety.