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My sympathies to you, I lost my grandmother last week. I remember how she used to cook those delicious meals for us. We, at that time, didn't appreciate her love to us. I didn't even say I love you to her before. Cherish people when they are here, love them, embrace them, yuo'll never know when they will be gone. God bless.

I am not sure how old you are..but it is exactly what happend when I lost my mother..1 1/2 years ago....embrace life and tell the people you love how much you love them..life is short..You sound mature beyond your years...My blessings..

My Father went to be with the Lord February 22, 2006. I had the opportunity to spend the night with him in the hospital less than a week before he passed. I'll never forget the feeling of his hand in mine, and my steady prayer for him to breathe. Just breathe. Diagnosed with malignant melanoma, it was the subsequent brain tumors that left him unable to walk, yet blessedly he felt no pain. The day Dad passed into the arms of God, he had watched Wheel of Fortune and visited with relatives. Though I was home with a sick child when he took his last breath, I'll never regret that night Dad and I had together. Sometimes when I especially miss him, I clasp my own hands together and can almost feel the warmth of his hand in mine. I still say, "Bye, Dad," where he used to sit in his recliner when I leave my Mom's house, and rub the spot where his head would have been. The same head I kissed so many times before when I'd say "See ya," 'cause I never was good at saying "goodbye."

I can understand how hard it must have been for you I am still trying to work through the loss of my parents late last year. All I can say is stay close to friends and family because that is what they are there for.

I lost my mama in 2003 and 1998 my dad on my birthday it hard to put in words he was never relly in my life I had to grow up by myself it was hard enff not getting a delpomlia from high school I sit here wishing their was more in my life but their not a family that apart not together it hurts because you see people with their and you just cry. and to grow up and the doctor say you die before you 2years old that just hard!! my mom and dad were not married when they had me. lost both grandmother and grandfather and uncle and number of friends that were friends. I can't tell you that everything ok but hang in there it has to get better. I hope so? I miss my family with all my heart!

Losing a loved one, no matter the relationship, is very difficult. My mother committed suicide when I was 18, 12 days before my first child was due, my baby sister (32 years old at the time) was murdered in July 1992, my younger sister dropped dead at age 44 in 2000, and then my father died of colon cancer 5 years ago. I was holding his hand when he took his last breath. One must draw upon one's inner strength and thank God that we had these people in our lives, if only for a short time. Losing a loved one may be an eye opening experience, but it's also heart wrenching, and can be a tool to make us stronger, if we can look past the loss and look for the good that was in the person we lost. We can't change anything, but we can certainly allow our grief to help us grow and to help others who may be going through the same thing.

I know what it's like to lose a loved one. I lost my dad in 1992, my mom 2004 and my uncle the same year and then I lost my aunt in 2006. I was very close to all of them. I miss them alot. I had to watch my parents die but not my aunt and uncle. I know how you feel and I give you my condolences.

Kim, there are three of your grandmother's brothers living in Sacramento, Bob, Otto and Eddie. We should plan to all meet sometime in the near future. I understand Rudy will be in Sac. in August. There are lots of cousins also! Keep in touch.... Pat akamomto7@yahoo.com

Pat - this is Kim! Amazing... I never even knew she had family out here, although when my Dad was young they lived in San Francisco. We were just watching many old home movies from the 60's... I wonder if your husband is in there? My Dad and I brought it back to show our significant others, who couldn't make the trip with us, so I will have to keep an eye out and tell my family! Thank you for your kind thoughts!

Kimberly, I am married to your Grammie's brother, Eddie. They were quite good friends in their youth and your grandmother "mothered " him as only a big sister can do. He was so fond of her! It is sad to me how siblings grow apart through distance and circumstance over the years. I accidently found your blog by "googling" her name. I'm so glad I found it because it brings back to me the whole dynamic of death of someone you love as I experienced the same feelings just a few years ago with may parents. Thank you for being courageous enough to face your fears so you could be at her side. You will never regret the time you spent with her. God bless you and your entire family. May God give you His richest blessings and peace. Pat Schmidt